There’s an inner well of wisdom that contains a juicy elixir that we often ignore. In the silence can emerge great creativity. It we can get quiet enough to listen – all else falls into place. Business is hard, but I teach that the competitive edge is that silence. Making decisions from a place of wisdom sans fear. The sign of a true leader. ~Judy Martin, in a comment on this blog, September, 2010
As I type this and look at this gorgeous photo of a real-world goddess who showered love, light, wisdom, and grace upon everyone she met, I am still in shock. She is now with the angels; heaven is blessed.
She was my #SOBCon Soul Sister. We “sort of” met at the #SOBCon Conference in April of 2010. The reality is we spent 3 days sitting at neighboring tables with our backs to each other, and kept bumping into each other every time one of us would get up for one reason or another. We exchanged many looks of kindness and “I’m so sorry!” comments, but never actually introduced ourselves to each other. That is, until after the conference was over.
She reached out to me via social media and said, “I am so sorry I never introduced myself to you. I felt really drawn to you for some reason would love to connect sometime.” We were 3 minutes into our first phone call when we realized we had a very unusual and deep spiritual connection. It was as if two soul sisters had been reunited. We laughed about how we had both been blind enough to miss every opportunity to connect at the conference. It was as if God sat us next to each other, made sure we kept bumping into each other, and we still missed all the signals!
But Judy looked to her intuition and reached out to me, and we became soul-friends. I would call her sometimes and after talking she would say, “everything you just told me was exactly what I needed to hear.” I remember a similar call when she reached out to me on a day when I was feeling very lonely, and literally lifted me up with her words.
We created a presentation together entitled, “Conquer Your Kryptonite!” and submitted it to the South by Southwest Event in Austin, Texas. It was not chosen but the process of creating it helped us see how our work was so aligned; hers was focused more on balancing your life and work to achieve your truest dreams, mine is focused with my business partner on balancing your energy to do the same.
We became such good friends that we decided to room together at the SOBCon conference the following year. We stayed up one night talking about the role of women in myth, and how everything about those mythical women made sense in our lives, and we woke up crazy early one morning to watch the Royal Wedding of William and Kate. Two hopeless romantics talking about how you know if you’re with the right man. That conversation seems so silly and yet poignant to me right now.
Judy called me last week and when I answered the phone she said, “Oh thank God you answered, I just felt like the angels were telling me to call you.” I had been working on a business challenge and she had just the right piece of wisdom that elevated my work. I told her so and she was so glad she had followed her intuition. Much more importantly, we talked about everything she had overcome in 2013 and everything she was excited about for 2014. She said, “2014 is going to be a much better year. I’m ready for it.”
As we were hanging up the phone the angels told me to tell her I loved her, and I did. I am so grateful for that.
Judy was a huge supporter of #LeadershipChat, which I hosted with Steve Woodruff and which led to her becoming part of the #CannoliCrew (Anthony Iannarino, Lisa Diomede, Molly Cantrell-Kraig, Lou Imbriano, Sean McGinnis, Angela Maiers, Fred McClimans) who always tweeted about cannolis during the chat. Our group met for lunch before SOBCon, the year Judy and I roomed together, and had what will go down in history as one of the best, most poignantly bonding lunch experiences of my life. Without Judy, the Cannoli Crew will never be the same.
During one Tuesday night #LeadershipChat a few years ago, Judy tweeted: “Comfort zone needs to be toyed with to transform and transcend to next level. Discomfort is just tangling w uncertainty – important to navigate chaos.” I feel as if that is advice from her to all of us who mourn her loss in this moment. Her life always inspired me and I now feel a genuine need to transcend to a new level because of her. I am dealing with terrible uncertainty and confusion over her death, and will absolutely need to navigate what feels like chaos. I think she is telling me that all of this is ok. It’s part of the process of growing, transforming and transcending…
Judy, you will live on in our hearts, you will live on in the stories we tell about you, you will live on in the way we choose to live our lives. May we honor our own truth to honor how you lived your life. May we live our truest dreams because that is what you worked so hard to help us do!
I miss you my soul sister…until we meet again. xo